I don’t know if it is just me or if anyone else can relate, but I say “I’m sorry” a lot. A LOT! Lately, I have been noticing that I just say it without even thinking about it. It could be that I am doing something that causes discomfort, like a procedure at work or combing my daughter’s hair and I am saying “I’m sorry” at a grimace or complaint of pain. I could make a simple mistake and before I know it, I am saying it again. There are many things where if I thought about it, I am not really sorry. I may have made a mistake, my intention may have been different, but I was not sorry. I think I have subconsciously developed the idea that people want to hear that. Maybe I am over-thinking it, but I could not imagine someone wanting to hear “I’m sorry” if it isn’t sincere.
I do believe in sincere apologies and for me, I realize that when I am really apologetic, I do not even say “I’m sorry.” I usually say “I apologize for….because…” I include an explanation of why I am apologetic every time.
I have consciously been thinking of phrases I could use instead of “I’m sorry.” Here is what I thought of:
- Forgive me.
- That was not intentional.
- I made a mistake.
- This (procedure, hairstyle, or whatever) will be over shortly.
- Thank you for being patient or understanding.
- I see how this or that inconvenienced you.
What are your thoughts? Are you sorry for being human and making a human mistake? I’d love to hear from you!
I Am Jackie